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Sex and the (Other) City
by snaggle at 01:54 AM on December 09, 2004
I never really understood the concept of 'dating services' or 'dating sites.' I'll admit I have a prejudice against such ways of meeting people, since the computer is involved in so many aspects of my professional and daily life that it seems somehow perverse to involve it in something so sacrosanct as one's love life. Plus, I was always surrounded by interesting people who, if they weren't themselves potentials, they certainly had friends who could be.
And then I graduated from college.
In the past three months in being in Los Angeles, I think I've met three people. I spend most every day encountering the same five people: my four coworkers and my roommate. After a while, I realized that I'd fallen into the professional rut: something would have to change or I'd die alone and unloved.
After that melodramatic moment, I did what any normal 24-year-old would do: I bought a hooker.
Just kidding.
I did, however, allow my roommate to, in a moment when we had both been drinking a bit, put me on Friendster. I didn't think much of it, but it turns out those things have their uses after all: I had a date tonight.
Blind date from online in Los Angeles? You betcha. I joked with my coworkers that if I didn't show up for work tomorrow they should look inside every car's trunk within a 5 mile radius of every Coffee Bean in the city. I'd talked with this guy back-and-forth a few messages on Friendster and then we moved into the AIM realm, chat-flirting for a few days. We arranged to meet for coffee tonight and, well, I'm still alive.
It was nice and tame: we met at Coffee Bean, which was closing, so we relocated to Starbucks and chatted. We parted ways after a couple hours of good talk without any attempts at lewdness (non-verbal, at least.) I couldn't decide whether to kiss him or not but I'm a pussy and he didn't make a move, so there was no kiss.
So maybe meeting people online is okay. In the forced anonymity of a large city, sometimes it's easier to meet people if you at least know you have one thing in common: you're internet junkies.
comments (7)
Good luck with that. Stick with public places to start. Hey, what\'s wrong with the roommate? Or doesn\'t he have pals?
by anna at December 9, 2004 7:38 AM
This is not a HIJACKING:
But it\'s a day of MOURNING: DIAMOND DARREL ABBOT is DEAD.
Formerly of PANTERA.
SHOT point blank 5 times on STAGE.
I CRANK PANTERA LOUDER THAN EVER NOW. FAR BEYOND DRIVEN, Track 3, 7, 8.... on REPEAT in following pattern of minutes: 23.6, 32.8, 50, 61.8, 74.6, 100, 161.8, 216.8, 423.6!
by LOCKHEED at December 9, 2004 9:16 AM
He has pals, but they\'re all crazy dancer-types, and for some reason I\'m forbidden them. Hm.
by snaggle at December 9, 2004 10:20 PM
About Online Dating: SNAGGLE, check out www.ifriends.net.
by LOCKHEED at December 10, 2004 11:27 AM
OMG that's so sweet...rock on online lovin - AIT Lindsay ;)
by Lindsay at December 11, 2004 12:32 AM
Years ago I visited my friend and his wife. She was perfectly okay with him corresponding online with sickos who also had these cheesy webcams rigged up to their computers. They'd swap lewd pix. She figured it was better than actual cheating with live persons. She is crazy.
by anna at December 12, 2004 11:36 AM
I know a number of people (some of them regulars here) who've used Nerve online personals (which is also the backend for the Onion personals, amongst a ton of other sites - so you are bound to find interesting people there). I even had used it, you know, before I was married and all.
by mg at December 18, 2004 8:54 AM