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Brake Up / Break Up

by adam at 06:44 PM on July 09, 2004

I broke up with my ex nearly four months ago, and at least partially on her advice I've started dating again, but I'm not happy about it. I feel like I've gone from watching Kurosawa movies on a 42" plasma screen TV to peering at reruns of Bewitched on a 9" B&W portable, and it ain't cool.

The worst part is that it doesn't just feel like crap to me, but it ends up going like crap for anyone that I go out with. Who can compete with such an intense relationship? Who should have to? Today I had to call someone to tell her that I wasn't feeling it anymore, but the truth of the matter is that I felt like I'd gone from curry to oatmeal, and no matter how good the oatmeal is, it can't compete with a murderous curry. I'm not one of those guys who's afraid to get too involved just in case someone better comes along, and I don't think that's what's going on here. I've just been spoiled. I got WOWed by someone on the first meeting; I had a deep emotional, physical, and intellectual connection, and now everything else feels like settling.

comments (8)

Not to play Dear Abby but is there some reason you couldn't tell this girl exactly what you just told us, perhaps accompanied by a diamond engagement ring?

by anna at July 10, 2004 8:31 AM


You know, it's funny - just as I was dispairing and generally kicking myself, it looks like someone's come along to knock me on my butt!

by Adam at July 10, 2004 11:12 PM


Wait, weren't you on a trip with your all-male chorale group this weekend?

by mg at July 12, 2004 2:44 PM


you know, i've been thinking about it and i want to apologize for calling you a stupid ass the other day. you're right (and you're wrong)--whatever floats your boat. whatever your ethnic or religious preferences are, one shouldn't judge someone else for their preferences. i just took it too personally and i felt like you were saying something that you weren't really saying. now that i'm reading what you wrote (on July 10th- and today is July 19? so maybe no longer valid) i realize that.

love,
jay may i'd

by Ida May Jay at July 20, 2004 10:01 AM


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by RYAN DESISTO at April 25, 2005 7:55 PM


ur not as bad as u think...at least u did break off the engagement thinking it was for the better...i know of someone that is engaged and will be getting married this year (december) and also still has another girlfriend on the side

by Karmen at February 10, 2006 3:56 AM


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you know sometimes its just helpful to let her know one way or another

by livelovedream at July 23, 2007 12:08 PM


What part of go on with your life didn't you get? Don't live in the past. By the looks of it you can do better.

by Ella at January 3, 2008 9:41 AM