Happy Father's Day....

by northstar at 09:19 AM on June 13, 2002

I mailed a Father’s Day card to my Dad yesterday. Now, I realize that to most of you that probably sounds like a ridiculously mundane thing to celebrate, or even mention. Let me say that I envy you. My relationship with my parents has not been a smooth road over the years. During my trip to Minnesota last month, I saw my parents for the first time since Christmas Day, 1991. There has been an overabundance of anger and alienation in my family, but I’ve finally arrived at a place where I can set that aside. I haven't forgotten, but I think I've finally found it within myself to forgive them.

You may remember that a couple of months ago, I posted a column asking whether or not I should see my parents during my trip. I had already made up my mind, but I wanted to find out what other people had to say. It was refreshing that all who responded said that I should see my parents. Y’all should be proud of yourselves. It was sound advice.

What I found were two people who were glad to see their oldest son. We’re all a bit older, and hopefully wiser for it, and I think we all realized that what happened in the past needs and deserves to be left there. Speaking for myself, I know that the things I was angry about were legitimate. I also know that they no longer matter. My parents are not going to be around forever. Who knows what sort of relationship we’re going to be able to have? I’m just glad that we’re going to be able to have one.

On Sunday, I’ll call Dad to wish him a happy Father’s Day. He won’t be able to talk for long because of his stroke, but I know that he'll be glad I called. And I'll be glad that we can finally talk to one another. It's been a long time coming.